Attacks your memory and perception
Moving the goalposts
You meet the condition they set, and they set a new one.
The first tell
You feel never finished. That feeling arrives before you can name the move.
What it sounds like
A buyer says he'll pay once you fix the paint. You fix it. Now he wants new tires first.
Say back
I met the condition we agreed on. I'll hold to what we agreed.
If they push
The tires are a small thing.
Then it's a small thing to put in a new, separate request.
How this family is disarmed
Hold to the record. Refuse to debate your own experience.
Paid
See it in dating and at work
Context packs show this tactic in the settings where it does the most damage, and let you drill it against a timer.