Attacks your logic
Red herring
They bring up something vivid but unrelated to pull you off the point.
The first tell
You feel distracted. That feeling arrives before you can name the move.
What it sounds like
You ask a contractor why the bill doubled. He starts describing how hard his week has been.
Say back
I'm sorry about your week. Why did the bill double?
If they push
I can't believe you're pressing me after what I've been through.
I'll be quick. Which line items changed?
How this family is disarmed
Restate the real claim, add the missing options, or ask for the missing step.
Paid
See it in dating and at work
Context packs show this tactic in the settings where it does the most damage, and let you drill it against a timer.