Attacks the frame
Just asking questions
An accusation is posed as an innocent question.
The first tell
You feel defensive. That feeling arrives before you can name the move.
What it sounds like
Someone posts: I'm only asking, but isn't it odd how well she did after the director took an interest?
Say back
If you're claiming something, say it plainly.
If they push
I'm just curious. Why so defensive?
Curious people accept answers. The answer is no.
How this family is disarmed
Reject the premise and restate it in your own terms.
Paid
See it in dating and at work
Context packs show this tactic in the settings where it does the most damage, and let you drill it against a timer.