Attacks the frame
Confirmshaming
The way to say no is worded to make you feel bad.
The first tell
You feel judged. That feeling arrives before you can name the move.
What it sounds like
A pop-up offers a discount. The decline button reads: No thanks, I like wasting money.
Say back
No thanks.
If they push
A second pop-up asks: Are you sure you want to miss out?
Yes, I'm sure. I'm closing this.
How this family is disarmed
Reject the premise and restate it in your own terms.
Paid
See it in dating and at work
Context packs show this tactic in the settings where it does the most damage, and let you drill it against a timer.