Attacks you personally
You too
They say you've done it as well, so your point doesn't count.
The first tell
You feel like a hypocrite. That feeling arrives before you can name the move.
What it sounds like
You tell a friend he drives too fast. He says: You got a ticket last year.
Say back
I did. Speeding was a bad idea then and it is now.
If they push
So you admit you're a hypocrite.
Maybe. It doesn't change how fast you were going.
How this family is disarmed
Separate the person from the point, then return to the point.
Paid
See it in dating and at work
Context packs show this tactic in the settings where it does the most damage, and let you drill it against a timer.